Relationship is the Solution

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I need to find where I first heard this, so I can make sure I credit them.  Instead of us focusing on the problems in relationship, we need to see relationships as the solution!

In our own spiritual lives, marriages, with our children and extended family members, colleagues and those we serve...building a healthy responsive and positive relationship is the solution.

Without relationship, we implement strategies and they become shallow and hollow and isolated.   Without relationship, feedback becomes shame.
Without relationship, growth feels purposeless.
Without relationship, methodology is unfocused and weak.

Relationship keeps us focuses on the individual and the purpose for everything we do.  Relationship allows us to build the trust and trust is critical for growth.
Relationship is our beginning base and our motivation.
Relationship and true connection is the glue keeping us grounded, secure, grateful and full of hope!
Relationship helps focus on who we are and not what we do.

I believe God placed within every heart a desire to be known and to belong.   Our brains are hardwired for this connection.  When I know I am loved and accepted and forgiven unconditionally, I give away the same unconditional love, acceptance and forgiveness!!

Relationship is the solution!

 Relationship is our destination and our journey.

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