Focus: The Sum of My Life

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In the pursuit of a goal, one area of intentional practice and growth has to be focus.

Oliver Burkeman asks, "What will your life have been in the end, but the sum total of everything you spent it focusing on?"

I don't know about you, but I can get focused....on all the wrong things.  I focus on my to do list and my not done list.  I focus on figuring how to do something, instead of doing it.  

I am realizing more and more that I have to take the time to pull off to the side of the road.  

Stand on the edge and look around.   To Stop.




To Observe.   I need to get out of my car (my head) and look around.  Take the time to breathe and simply observe.  

 Without judgement or condemnation.  Without expectation or analysis.  To look, listen, feel and note what is. 



And Think. "Am I still going in the right direction?"  "Will this road take me to where I ultimately want to be?"  "Where do I want to end up today?

 Evaluate.  Check my roadmap. Walk around the car and kick the tires.  (I don't know why, that is what Dad did.)

Write a few notes.  Fill up.  

Focus.

When I struggle finding meaning, I..........look in the dictionary.  

 Focus.   Noun. The Center of Interest or Activity. Directed Attention.  the state or quality of having or producing clear visual definition.
Verb. pay particular attention to.  To cause to be concentrated.

Focus.  Having a produced a clear visual definition of where I am going...  I go there. 

Move.  Keep moving forward!



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